Courageos Sunday – Pamela Taylor – From Overcoming Abuse to Helping Others

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Hello, my brave survivors and kind readers!

This week we shall focus on how finding resources can make it easier for you to take your life back. I found this amazing inspirational story about Pamela Taylor, survivor and founder of dress for success.

Dress for Success – A Survivor Story and A Resource

Today’s inspiration comes from Pamela Taylor –She is the President and Co-founder of Dress for Success, a global nonprofit organization that provides professional attire for low-income women, to help support their job-search and interview process. It is excellent in empowering women to achieve economic independence by providing a network of support and the development tools to help women thrive in work and in life.

I do remember feeling helpless and financially unstable in my teens and early twenties when things were getting out of hand at home. That embarrassing painful helplessness is the worst feeling a person can ever experience in her life.

This story spoke to me and showed me how Dress for success as a resource IS an important tool to protect people experiencing abuse and to help people towards the step of becoming survivors. This by offering people help, to be able to look for guidance outside their closest circle. Something that may be important if you are trapped in destructive environment.

 


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“Giving back to the society is the rent we pay for living on this planet”
~Pamela’s Grandmother~


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Pamela Taylor – The Resource And Survivor

Experiencing domestic violence Pamela’s passion comes from the generosity learned from her grandmother and her own experience with domestic violenceWith this as inspiration, she created two focus points for her organisation

Wanting to help women to find their voice!
Wanting to change the economic horizon in their respective areas.

Pamela was violently abused by her boyfriend. Experiencing one day near a shopping mall that not one single person stepped up to help her.

That was the worst memory of her past, rather than the abuse she was experiencing at that time She also had to deal with the misconception that a lot of battered women meets the question: Why does she not leave?

“not only will I kill you, I will make sure no one finds your body”
~Pamela’s ExBoyfriend~

She knew that her boyfriend would try to kill her, having tried five times, exposing her to threats. This while he was a part of the police force. He used his position as a respected authority, not only to threaten her but through his threat, he indicated a power he as a police officer had. The power to know how to cover a crime, as well as having a trusted enough position to be able to get away with it.

There were several motives for why she could not leave
she wanted her father in law and the world to see who was actually responsible for all of this. And not only that, what If something happened to her, what would become of her kids?

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Dress for Success


I was baffled to know that “dress for succeess” operates in more than 150 cities in 28 countries and has helped nearly one million people.

“We are providing clothes from professional to casual to men and women who are entering the job market, college, vocational or training schools, or simply in need-free of charge”
 ~Dress For Succeess~

“We don’t want them to spend money on clothing at all”
~Dress for Succeess~

Dress to success provides with clothes being interview appropriate clothing, Like interview suits for job interviews. Dress to succeed also offers career growth, confidence boosts and emergency food pantry as well for food. They even have a certified work search centre; help in assessing things they like to do as a career.

What better help can we offer to a people who have no support, no resources to look after themselves nor the kids?

What is The Moral of This Story?

This story shows that society at some points contributes to domestic violence being allowed in this world. In this case with Pamela, where no one reacted and stepped up to help her.  She understood the needs for resources out there and created one.

So let’s contribute to spreading awareness, as well as educating people on the resources available for those affected by abuse?

Educate yourself. What is abuse?
Inspirational Sunday – Weekly Inspirational Story – From a Survivors Heart
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Be it verbal, mental, sexual or physical. Abuse is not only physical. Most victims tend to think that they are not really experiencing abuse.
Remember, you only rise once you fall.

~S.Roveena~


Sincerely

S.Roveena
PLQ Inspirational Blogger and Survivor

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Just Call Me Lolli – Survivor Story – Surviving Abuse

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The more information you have, the more you will know. Ignorance grows best in the dark. This is how so many people stay in abusive relationships. Surviving Abusive is a daily thing and there is no timeframe to “get things right” as people often suggest. I always like to compare healing with a broken leg.

 

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I hope dear friend!

That nothing bad happens to you. However, if you have gone through the following experience then you will understand. If you break your leg, I wouldn’t expect you to heal in 48 hours. Healing for this situation will take a matter of weeks if not months till the person recovers their ability to walk again. Healing is a process. Respect the process and don’t abandon your position. Things will get better with time, not because of its scientific nature of transgressing, but rather on your willingness to make good decisions with time. Time doesn’t heal wounds, it’s what you do with time. If for 20 years you sit every day on your sofa reminding yourself what a failure you are, then life will pass you by. It’s what you do with your time that will help you live a victorious life.

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How You Know You Are Not Over It

I get so sad when I hear other survivors express how they have ‘already turned the page’ on the events and how they are striving in life. I don’t get sad because of what they say, but because of the pressure, they feel to say it. I question the authenticity of that statement based on the reaction they often portray after I ask them how did they get over it or further details of the abuse. When a person immediately shuts down and attempts to change the subject, that’s when you know they are not completely over it. Being healed means it is easier to be open about what happened. And of course, this is not a matter of staying stuck on the past, but one good sign of letting go is being able to verbalize how you felt and release all of your emotions in a healthy way. I notice that with many young girls, they tend to jump from relationship to relationship as if they will find fulfilment in another human being. We are all flawed in some way. Leaving an abusive relationship to enter a new one, with the hopes of healing what was done to you does not make sense for many reasons. Other than bringing in the baggage of your past into this new relationship, you are also stating that this person is your god. That you can’t live without them. This is false. Your joy does not lie with another person. I understand the pressure of wanting to have a boyfriend and being able to flaunt your relationship in the eyes of other girls, however, I can say to you as an “older sister” that it is not worth it. Now, assuming that most of the readers are young girls, I would like to communicate this to you: Healing is the path for good relationships. Here are some tips to get through difficult days. Because as we all know surviving abuse might be every day for us, because of the scenes that are replaying in our heads.

 

 

Debunking Emotions

It is often the mistreatment we apply unto our feelings that hinders our capability of identifying what is good and what is bad. This suppression of emotions is a way we abuse ourselves unconsciously. Not because we want to, but because it has become second nature. We learned how to suppress emotions, because to our minds, their existence meant a scold or a slap in the face. I remember once how I was reprimanded for a foolish behaviour, and the abuser yelled at me to stop crying. Since that day, I feel immense guilt when I cry, but I have learned to allow myself to cry when I must. Don’t be afraid of your emotions. Don’t let them control you either.

 

Asking Questions

Surviving abuse means to gain responsibility for putting up boundaries. But how can we construct boundaries without understanding the gravity of the things that happened? A good way of avoiding going through all of this event is by asking yourself questions. Imagine your best friend is asking you about the abuse. These questions are important because they help us analyze what happened and identify toxic tactics that the abuser used. Let’s be honest, we often say after an abusive relationship: “It wasn’t that bad.” Of course, because we didn’t understand at the time how serious was the situation.

“What were the red flags?” “How many months did I spend depressed and isolated from my friends?” “Was he or she consistent with their words?” “Did I often make excuses for the person’s behavior?” “Did I felt embarrassment in front of people while being with this person?” “How much time did I spent with this person?” “All the time? Did I have time for friends or family?” “Did he threatened to kill himself or herself when I tried to get out of the relationship?”

 

Knowledge is power

That was the motto of my alma mater growing up. And although it sounds quite epic, it really is. The more you talk with survivors, (that are not currently engaging with toxic relationships), the more you learn about your own story. The more you investigate how they got out of an abusive relationship, who helped them, how they are coping, the more hope you will feel. Remember that abuse is best friends in isolation. The times when we are our weakest and isolated is when we lose a sense of reality. We start talking, thinking, acting, and living life as the abuser because we have lost connection with our identities. A good way of gaining knowledge is by listening other people’s stories on YouTube. It’s more personal than reading a textbook if you ask me.

 

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Community

 

My mother says this to me all the time when I need something: “He or she that looks will find.” If you search for survivor communities, trust me there’s a ton of them. You will find them. You are not alone.

Do not underestimate the power community. I would suggest anyone who is serious about healing and not holding on to their past as a victim to engage with us. Project Life Quality is here for YOU. This initiative was not created out of pure boredom or to decorate the world wide web with meaningless words. We care about you, and the tools we bring you is for your own good. Social media is a great way to communicate without feeling judged or embarrassed. If you have Facebook or Instagram I encourage you to become part of the family. Don’t forget to follow us at @projectlifequality. There are also other groups in social media about this topic that will be more than glad to welcome you with open arms.

 

 

Communication

Communication can help you listen to yourself as you narrate what was done to you. At the beginning of my healing, I would turn on my camera and just talk to it as I narrated what was done and the issues that followed that. Now, this might not be useful for some people. It did help me a lot because I would notice the way I talked and my mentality as a person. I discovered that I had a mentality of a slave. A slave of abuse and not of a person who was free. I deleted the videos and do that anymore because it served its purpose at one time, but what I learned is that I was not happy based on my tone and that I had to renew my mind with truth. May I suggest a certified therapist might be the best option for some? If you don’t feel comfortable with the counsellor after the first visit, don’t get discouraged keep looking until you find one that understands you. I’ve done my share of counselling sessions for years since I was 14. I’m taking a break from it due to schoolwork, but will continue to see one in the future. Remember mental health is not a bad word. People go to different specialists to help them with different body parts. There’s podiatrists, neurologists, cardiologists, urologists etc. The brain is also part of the body. Don’t forget that!

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Consistency

Maintaining good health requires consistency. If you want a healthy body, you don’t go to a gym twice and expect mind-blowing results, afterwards do you? It is a continuous labour, to maintain a healthy mind. I would suggest journaling daily, decorate your room with positive affirmations, and surround yourself with things that fill you with hope and laughter. Exercising laughter and wonder every day is part of your healing. Yes, cry if you have to, but don’t forget to laugh. Consistency is not about doing logical inventories of your emotions every single day. That would be kind of weird. You are a person, not a robot. Remind yourself every day that even though you are not where you want to be, at least you are not where you used to be. I’ve literally had to practice what I preach on this because I tend to be a melancholic person. For me, it works to listen to a specific playlist all day long or to see specific movies, or go to a certain coffee shop. A movie that always makes me laugh is White Chicks. Find things that remind you of how beautiful you are. What works for you?

Intentionality

Surviving abuse is difficult. The replaying of scenes is a tedious thing to go through. Not only did you go through that terrible experience, but now your mind insists on reminding you ever so often. When the sudden chain of memories come rushing towards you out of nowhere, do not panic. In fact, before that even happens you need to decide. You see a friend, feelings are good and wonderful to experience but they cannot control your life. Neither do memories. They are strong, powerful, overwhelming, breathtaking, and infuriating at times, but do not let them take over you. Make a decision. In fact, today can be your D Day. Decide beyond your feelings that you will not let that memory or feeling of hopelessness to dictate how your future will be. There will be times when your friends won’t pick up the phone, your accountability partner is busy, or everyone else has something going on. There will be times when you will be alone, and you have to make the decision way before you encounter a bad day to remain hopeful. You are stronger than fragments of repeated thoughts, even if they’re not a production of your imagination. You are a survivor. Not a victim.
I hope these tips will encourage to walk in freedom every day. There will be hard days as well all know, but if many people have been abused and now have healthy families why can’t you? The cycle can stop with you. Healing is surviving abuse. Until the next time!

 

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Sincerely

Loren Ruiz

PLQ Survivor and Member

Wednesday Motivation Video – Hope! Our Best Superpower

Weekly Motivational Video – Hope Our Best Superpower

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Survivors of a violent pass may appear to have the qualities of a super hero, but their inner tenacity to overcome past villains gives HOPE that the best super power is found in those who learn to never stop fighting!

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This weeks motivational Video from our Project life quality supporter, devoted father and husband Kenyatta Mitchell. Discussing whats needed to become a survivor of abuse. Sharing his very own personal story and meeting with the aftermaths of abuse.

 

 

Sincerely

Kenyatte Mitchell

PLQ Supporter and Motivational speaker

Dare to Create – Surviving Abuse Plan – Kintsugi

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Welcome to our Dare You Create an article, from #ProjectLifeQuality. Your creative corner, where we discuss our topic of the week and you are also provided with a suggestion to take away with you. This will be something designed to encourage and motivate you, to explore your thoughts through the use of the arts. I can promise some exciting articles. Look out for this each Tuesday.

This week at PLQ, we’re discussing surviving abuse and I’ll be sharing a very moving account by one survivor.

 

To recap, last Tuesday I shared a little about how complex abusive relationships can be. How victims often find themselves in this situation repeatedly. It’s something I recall only too well, from my years as a community domestic abuse support worker.

 

Provided with safe relocation and the means to become the person they wanted to be, the change in these women was beautiful. It reminds me of the ancient Japanese art of fixing broken objects with gold, because they’re not considered truly broken – that given attention, they can become even more beautiful. It’s called Kintsugi. There’s even poetry form named after it. (If you look below this Kintsugi poem, you’ll also see that it relates to this week’s Dare to Create challenge.)

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Beautiful isn’t it?

 

Dare to Create Challenge

Okay, time for the creative bit. Having read the poem and thoughts on the subject of surviving abuse, how does this make you feel? Are you ready to take a step forward? How about making this challenge your next positive step? Do as described in the photo below and feel free to use the tags provided if you want to share your piece.

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The PLQ team would love to see your participation. Why not share it and tag us?

 

Victim Turned Survivor – A Story of Great Courage and Inspiration

This week I’d like to introduce Sierra. We met by chance when I stumbled upon her Instagram account @misscarter90. I was very moved by her remarkable perseverance and she bravely allowed me to ask about her story.

 

Sierra lived with physical, emotional and sexual abuse from her early years. Now finally free from abuse, she’s helping others.

 

“My goal is to help others find their voice and know they aren’t alone in the struggle”

 

 

Sierra’s story

(Beware – Trigger warning!)


“My parents separated when I was a year old. I lived with my mother from birth until six years old. During that time I watched her be physically abused and use drugs more than she cared for her children. At six my father got custody of me and my older sister (adopted at birth). We were physically beat constantly, he was highly addicted to drugs and alcohol. I was always made fun of by my father. He would tell me I was too fat etc. He even went as far as telling me I was mentally handicapped.”

“He told me I would never amount to anything.”

“The sexual abuse was ongoing. I don’t remember when it began for sure. Memories are repressed from my earlier years with him but by 10 I was waking up feeling like something had happened and would have no clothing on. I was sexually assaulted up until my 13th birthday by my dad. I told school. Of course, no one in my family believed anything.”

 

“My sister and I were sent to live with my drug addict mother and didn’t know where we would sleep, what we’d eat, when we would even bathe.”


“In foster care, life began to seem normal yet I was still dealing with a lot of issues from the past. I was told even in foster care that it was my fault my father sexually assaulted me. II ran away to NYC and fell into the hands of a pimp. I was forced to sell myself for money. I finally escaped and turned myself in as a runaway. Extradited back to Michigan only to discover my pimp had got me pregnant. Fifteen, in foster care and pregnant.”

PLQ – “WOW, that’s too much to deal with at such a vulnerable age.”

Sierra – “I lost my daughter to the state, ran away again and ended up pregnant again. My second daughter’s father beat the crap out of me choking me with extension cords. Trying to throw a heavy desk onto me. Slicing my knee with a knife. When I turned myself in at 6 months pregnant I didn’t know what was going to happen.”

“They took my second daughter when she was a month telling me I needed time to heal from my past. How can you heal when the two people who you thought you would have a family with, i.e. my kids, are taken from you?”

PLQ – “I’m lost for words. You are a survivor!”

 

Sierra – “After high school I went to NY,  alone and homeless. I struggled initially, but started college. Then I thought I’d found love but he too was a worthless pimp. Your guess is right, I became pregnant and he beat me. Since then, every day has been a struggle. My sons are almost 6 and 7 and I can’t even contact them any more because of their father’s power and control. So yes I am a survivor and yes I strive to help others. Eventually I want to open up a shelter for those in need of help.”

Yes my past is terrible and I’ve dwelled on it for so long, that as I learn to love myself again, I feel control for the first time in my own life.”

PLQ – “And what is that like for you?”

Sierra – “It feels absolutely amazing. Liberating.”


“I can write about the abuse, talk to support groups online. Crochet and find positive ways to express myself. I take better care of myself, during the abuses I never cared how I looked or what I felt like.”  

 

PLQ – “Such a positive message for those experiencing what you once did.”

“What else would you tell someone reading this?”

Sierra – “Find positive people to be around. Talk about issues. If you feel something’s not right, get help immediately. Don’t settle for less than you deserve. We’re worth more than abuse. Learn to express yourself and find who you truly are, not who someone else wants you to be.”

 

Thank you for sharing with us, Sierra.

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Thank you for sharing with us Sierra 

Be the person you want to be.

Sincerely

Rebecca Goldthorpe

PLQ Creative Coach and Journalist

 

Weekly Theme – Surviving Abuse – The Road to Recovery

Surviving Abuse
pebbles-357659_960_720Surviving abuse will be a process occurring over time. No person is able to terminate this process quickly. It can be an occasion for positive developments and growth if we maintain a self-awareness of ourselves at the beginning of this process and moving forward.

No person should say to you, “You ought to be over this by now!”

The Beginning of the Aftermath

At the beginning is disassociating from the abuser. This is essential and cannot be excused or avoided. Whether an intimate relationship or a workplace environment, the abuser must have no further contact with the survivor.

This disassociation is likely to be disruptive. It is likely to cause inconvenience and possibly financial disruption as well as social ruptures. We won’t be seeing the same people every day, perhaps; or maybe we will have to change a job. If that is necessary to end the abusive relationship, it cannot be avoided.

With this disruption, is the real risk that the survivor will take on blame and regret for the disassociation. If only the abusive relationship hadn’t ended! Surely there was some way…

This is false and wishful thinking. Survivors need the self-confidence to know that they are strong enough to adapt to the disruptions that come with ending an abusive situation. Abuse, again, is not the fault of the abused. It is a pattern of misbehavior by an abuser towards a subject person to manipulate and control them.

Persons supporting friends and relations in this situation should be firmly positive. It was necessary to end the abusive situation, and the disruption is temporary and surmountable. It will help your friends and relations to say so. Don’t assume they know it without saying so

During the Recovery

Survivors of abuse will be confronted with doubts about their ability to resume similar situations, associations, or intimate relationships, after abuse. Project Life Quality is entirely positive about the ability of survivors to exercise good judgment! It is necessary to remember your absolute self-worth.

You deserve not to be abused. You deserved to break away from abuse. You are capable of restoring emotional, social, workplace relationships to replace the abusive environment.

Project Life Quality urges you to explore the freedom from abuse for some individual growth. Perhaps you have never encouraged yourself to express yourself artistically, or undertaken a physical regimen of change.

Achievement of change, by itself, is empowering. As you undertake and achieve goals, you will come to believe (as we do!) that your judgment is sufficient for happiness.

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Doubt and Depression

Doubts about options and opportunities can be recurring to survivors of abuse. A general distrust of self-worth and capabilities can be observed. The fact that these situations recur does not make them self-fulfilling prophesies.

It may be normal from time to time to doubt your judgment or capacity for enjoyment. Allow us to point out that such things can be countered with a change in perspective and some action.

Nobody ought to force you to overcome your emotions on a timetable. No person should say to you, “You ought to be over this by now!” You will process your situation day by day, and if you are having a bad day, it is no indication that you will not feel more open to opportunity even as shortly as in a day.

If you feel overwhelmed by emotions of doubt or depression, try to have the self-awareness to say, “Today I feel overcome.” Take a pause to consider whether you have felt this way continuously since the end of your abuse? Remember the times you did not feel this overwhelmed. Would it help to discuss the situation with a friend? Would taking on some task or chores, some small project, distract you from your feelings?

Sometimes we feel like nothing would help and nobody cares. This is never true.

Those of us witnessing a friend or relation escape an abusive relationship can take steps to make sure they know it is not true, that we do care and are available during the period after the end of abuse. We know that they did not deserve to be abused and are better off out of the abuse; it can do wonders for us to say so!

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Positive Changes

Project Life Quality wants you to take advantage of this period of self-criticism with some concrete self-improvement.

Is your diet properly balanced? Are you getting enough exercise? Have you challenged yourself to write poetry? How’s your emotional self-awareness?

Consider countering the blues with some action to begin a gradual process of self-improvement. Something that can be started right away and let you work slowly towards a goal you define for yourself.

You may have thought you aren’t good enough. That isn’t true. You deserve not to be abused. And you can make yourself even better, by your measures, if you are willing to try. Measure yourself by your goals, please, and take it gradually.

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Overcoming Abuse

Let’s be direct: surviving abuse is going to make a difference in your life. You are going to have an experience with a bad situation and learn something about avoiding similar situations.

You are going to have gone through a period of disruption after the end of abuse. You will have applied your judgment to this situation and be stronger and wiser for having done so. You will handle smaller disruptions with more patience and grace.

You are going to have survived a period of doubting your abilities. You will come through that more aware of yourself and what you are capable of.

You will be in a position to make decisions and commitments, without hesitating because you were abused.

You will apply superior judgment, poise and insight to situations you encounter.

We hope, if you explore the opportunities with us, you will also be healthier, more expressive and more confident at the same time.

Sincerely,

Christopher Andrew Balsz Jr.

PLQ Team Member

 

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JustCallmeLolli – A Survivor Story – Stigma of Abuse

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When I think about stigma of abuse, I think about many things. I think about how abuse shaped my emotions and informed my brain on things that were not true. I don’t think just on the verbal or the emotional aspect of the damage.

Fear – A defence Mechanism

There’s many types of abuse: emotional, physical, verbal, sexual, financial, and spiritual. At the core of any type of abuse there’s the hunger for control and manipulation. Abuse is when an insecure person persecutes someone else’s freedom for the only reason of having a sense of control. You see, an abuser, when stripped down to the core, is a very insecure person who has been bruised repeatedly in life. The insecurity is rooted in fear. Fear of being left alone, fear of not being highly esteemed in public, fear of being humiliated, fear of taken advantage of etc. You might ask yourself: “Oh well doesn’t everyone struggle with insecurity?” Yes. It’s how an individual navigates through the murky waters of insecurity that makes them an abuser or not. What a shame! For someone feeling so low about themselves to conclude that the only way they will ever feel loved is by controlling every situation and person around them. I’ve never met an abuser with a healthy self-esteem. The only thing they do is project they have a great self-esteem, which is obviously reversed or nonexistent. This portrayal of “Look at me! I am great!” is actually a defense mechanism for abusers. It’s the hook they use to convince people that they don’t have a control problem. Have you heard of the phrase Hurt people, hurt people? Well that is exactly what abusers do. Most of them have been hurt in life, but this does not serve as an adequate excuse of why they should be repeating the same things to others. More than the unfortunate situations that a survivor had to go through, I define abuse as the ultimate projection of a person’s self-hate towards a completely innocent person. Abuse is the final painting which reflects the inner turmoil of a selfish person. Abuse is just not a push, an insult, a silent treatment, a forced lewd act, controlling finances, or reversing scripture to get away with questionable decisions. It’s about a distorted philosophy of self. Abuse is a prison for the mind, soul, dreams and words. Abuse infects your life with false responsibilities and false ideologies. Abuse is a spider web of lies and confusion.

 

I freaked out. I wonder why before investing my time, energy, and feelings into previous relationships, I didn’t notice the buttons in other people’s faces.

Symbolic Cinema

There’s a movie called Coraline. I am sure many of you have seen the movie, read the novel, or have heard of it at least once. If this is not the case, I recommend it. The impact this film has made on my life cannot be translated into words. The reason for this, lies within the different topics and messages it communicates. Coraline is an animated synonym for Russian dolls. Every object, character, scene, and detail reveal silent messages. Yes, it’s a kid’s movie, but personally it’s something more. Well, let’s be a little bit realistic…it can be creepy for some children! And I am not suggesting that this film is a horror movie (because it isn’t) or that I like horror movies, because I don’t for many reasons. But many details of this film may seem uncomfortable for certain viewers. But isn’t abuse disturbing as well? However, society seems to glance over it and sweep it under the rug many times.

Official Trailer Coraline

 

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Flawed Perfections
The film discusses abusive tendencies and psychological traps in a way that is subtle but clear at the same time. Not only that, but it dissects the mind of an abuser; their motivations and how they operate to convince others. Whether it’s warning signs transmitted through dialogue, obvious traps that the main protagonist ignores, unnerving characteristics of the villain, I always learn something new every time I watch it. Without giving away too any details, since this is not a movie review, I would like to examine a certain scene. The first time Coraline enters the ‘Other World’ she meets her ‘Other Mother and Other Father. But before that encounter, everything seemed flawless. It seemed as if everything was perfect at first glance because of the carefully decorated house along with the inviting smells coming from the kitchen. Home sweet home is what this world reminds you of the minute your eyes come across this whimsical world. However, once I saw that these figures portraying the main protagonist’s fake parents had buttons as eyes, I freaked out. I wonder why before investing my time, energy, and feelings into previous relationships, I didn’t notice the buttons in other people’s faces. I am talking about the specific implications slipped in the dialogues serving as red waving flags to my mind. To me abuse is the pursuit of gaining a false sense of happiness and freedom from the abuser’s point of view. It’s an unending cycle for both the victim and abuser. The abuser thinks controlling someone will make him or her happy, but once they notice it doesn’t work they start resenting the wonderful person they have in their life and attempts to transform the person into a thing. It’s a cycle that can be ended if you choose to. For me abuse is many things. I leave you with an exchange of words between the protagonist and villain. It’s definitely food for thought.

“You know…I love you…”
“You have a very funny way of showing it.”

 

 

   Sincerely 

~Loren Ruiz~

PLQ Survivor

Weekly Motivational Video – “The world needs you”

 

Weekly Motivational video – “The world needs you”

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Negative stigma placed ON us by society not only judge unfairly, but creates mass separation within humanity.

This weeks motivational Video from our Project life quality supporter, devoted father and husband Kenyatta Mitchell. Here he goes against stigma of abuse. Holding a personal message to you close to his chest. Watch them get revealed and understand how valuable you are. And you… You are Beautiful.

 

 

Sincerely

Kenyatta Mitchell & the PLQ Team

Have a Gorgeous day

Non Profit Organisation for Abuse Survivors

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