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Happy New Year! I hope you have an excellent year filled with laughter, growth, and new adventures. You’ve probably heard about this thing called New Year’s resolutions. Am I correct? I bet you at some time have made a list of things you wanted to change or put your focus on for the following year. It doesn’t matter how many things you can fit on a piece of paper, your life won’t magically change when the clock changes to midnight. Yes, writing your goals down is good and beneficial because it reminds you what to work on every day, but it is your intentionality that counts the most.
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Nothing will change this year, until you have made the decision to take things seriously. In midst of trouble and seasons changing, take your goals seriously. Your friends, family members, or co workers, won’t do it for you. That’s okay! That’s exactly why they are your goals, not theirs. I believe once you have made the decision about taking your goals seriously, you will find a way to reach it. “Where there is a will, there’s a way.” So it doesn’t really matter if other people don’t understand your vision for this year or if some walk away from your life, that’s part of life. Find books that talk about weight loss, opening a business, writing a book, or whatever it is that your goal may be. Also, surround yourself with people who are experts in the topic. Whether they can be found in your community or not, remember there’s always YouTube. YouTube has the ability to connect you with thousands of tutorials, reviews, personal experiences, and information.
Protect your dreams
One of the things I’ve painfully learned throughout the years is that not everyone has your best interests at heart. In fact, if there’s something that you should be careful of, is who you tell your goal and dream to. This is because people are quick to discourage you, even your family members. Be careful not to sabotage the vitality of your future with surrounding you with people who secretly envy you. Those people won’t help you obtain your goals, rather convince you that you can’t and always find something negative to say. Another thing friend, be wise to look advice in proper places. If your goal is to land at a certain position in a company, don’t ask advice from someone that has changed jobs multiple times in a short period of time. I understand it is human nature wanting to obtain validation from others, but sometimes seeking that affirmation from people that really don’t consider you as a friend will do you more harm than anything.
Blocking negative things
What used to work then, won’t work now. Whether you have to change the music you hear, the language you use in conversations, the places you frequented, the friends you used to hang around, something has to change. Maintaining a sense of purpose will keep you motivated. Truth is you won’t ever reach your goals if you think long term. Take it one day at a time, because if you start viewing the big picture all at once, you will be overcome with stress and intimidation. And while you’re at it, sit in a quiet place and ask yourself the following questions:
- Why do I want to reach this goal?
- What do I need to do in order to obtain it?
- What things do I have to change in order to see it manifest?
A Final Thought:
Don’t feel discouraged if things don’t go as expected the first time. During the journey you will find that you have to make changes in order to reach your destination. This is all part of the process of learning and growing. Maybe putting a corkboard in your bedroom, sticky notes, or a whiteboard will remind you of your strategies. Maybe your phone will be a better alternative. Whatever works for you, my friend. I believe 2018 will be filled with many great moments of you reaching milestones. Hopefully you will be looking back every now and then, remembering how far you have come. And also don’t forget that PLQ is here for you!
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And remember… you are beautiful,
PLQ Survivor and Ambassador